5 Ways To Love Your Kids Better In 2012:
1. Love Jesus.
Our end goal cannot be to simply love our kids. We must first love our Savior and be loved by Him. He is the only one who can supply us with the love we need for our children. He is the one who must lead and direct us in the way we should go. He must save us, fulfill us and refresh us before we can reproduce true love for our children.
2. Let Your Life Be Guided By The Word Of God.
We must let our lives be guided by the Word of God because Proverbs 28:26a shows us that anyone who trusts his own heart is a fool. Thankfully God has made a way for us to daily hear from Him in His word. He has given us His Scripture.
As 2 Timothy 3:16 shows, “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” We must have God’s reproof in our lives. We must have his correction. We must have His instruction in righteousness. We must let our lives be guided by the Word.
As parents we are commanded in Deuteronomy 6:6-7 to diligently teach our children the commands of God and to talk to them about it. How can we love them in this way if we ourselves are not being taught by God?
Live by the word and train your child in it. For as Proverbs 22:6 promises, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
3. Love Your Spouse.
Marriage is a special bond between two people that cannot be paralleled. No other relationship can match it. It is unique in the fact that God makes the two become one. This is important in parenting because as Gary Ezzo, author of On Becoming Baby Wise says, “Great marriages produce great parents” (20). If you want to love your children well, love your spouse. A strong marriage will help produce security in the home, emotional stability, as well as confidence in your child (20-21). If your marriage is intact, protect it and keep it a priority.
Consider further what Ezzo has to say, “When the marriage relationship is beautiful what impressionable child would not desire to share in its joy? When two are beautifully one, what child would not seek the comforts of this togetherness? The best years of parenting flow out of the best years of marriage. Protect it!” (22).
4. Study Your Child.
Each child you bring into your home is a brand new person. They have a new personality, different likes and dislikes, varying interests, etc…Even though you may have had them since the day they were born there is still more to learn. Study your children. Find out how they are gifted. Strive to know their interests. Engage them in the places where they struggle. As you study them you will be able to parent accordingly.
5. Time, Time, Time!
Many people are willing to substitute quantities of time for what they would call quality time. This is not a fair substitute. Every child’s love language is time. Children need their parents. They need instruction, guidance, love, and fun from their parents. They can only receive these forms of love if the parent is present. Aim for quantity when it comes to time, not just “quality” time.